From the outside, NLP processes can look kind of stupid. The way the subconscious works, processes often require you to physically do some action that might look a little loopy to an outside observer. You might need to stand in one spot. Then stand in another spot. Then back to the first one again! During that little cha-cha, with some visualization and other NLP techniques, you will have associated spatial references to both places that will serve as “anchor points” for your subconscious mind.is going to feel pretty foolish, but it does work.
Other processes can involve working with different parts of yourself, moving forward or backward in time, creating an anchor by associating a physical gesture with a thought pattern, and “resources” (see below) like you would install software.
Every process is experienced differently by every person who does it, but the one thing every NLP process has in common is putting you closer to your goals by teaching you how to communicate with yourself.
Using the Axion Method, we talk about “adding resources” a lot. When we talk about resources in NLP, it’s not the usual manpower, gold, coal sort of resources people tend to think of when they hear the word. NLP resources are the thought process tools you need to accomplish your new mind state. They include joy, peace, compassion, strength, abundance, and (my personal favorite) fun. Here’s a list of NLP resources. You can print it out if you want. It’s worth its weight in gold.
The Mind-Body Connection
The mind-body connection we use in NLP is a real and tangible one. Caroline Myss, a New York Times bestselling author, likes to say in her talks, “Anybody who doubts the mind/body connection has clearly never had a sexual fantasy before.” Clearly.
A repeated or prominent thought pattern in your mind has a corresponding sensation in your body. Each sensation in your body will have some subconscious impressions, as well.
How You Feel
When I ask you during a class, “How does that feel in your body?”, I don’t mean your emotions. I mean, what physical sensation is connected to the thought pattern we are working on? Really let yourself feel those sensations.
When you are feeling an emotion during a process, try to focus on what that emotion actually feels like in your body. If you’re feeling sad or joyful, where do you feel that? In your stomach? In your throat? What does it look, sound, move, smell like? What color is it? Get as many details as you can, and above all, trust the information you are receiving.
The input you get might not make much logical sense to you. The important part is to trust the information that you get. It’s very, very important that you do because your subconscious mind loves to communicate with symbols and metaphors. Make a commitment to yourself to have faith in your impressions when you’re doing this work. It is going to help you.
NLP Parlor Trick
Let’s goof around with NLP a little bit. Imagine a grid in front of you. Without overthinking it, imagine your favorite food. What does it look like? What does it smell like? Is it hot? Does it have steam coming off of it? Does it make a sound, like a soda does? Is there condensation rolling down the glass? Note the texture of it. Now place it where it feels like it should go on the grid. (Just use your instinct; there’s no wrong answer.)
Let’s switch gears. Imagine a food that you think is disgusting. Do what you did with the good food. Imagine all of its attributes. What does it look like, smell like, sound like? Is it hot, cold, tepid? Good! Now place it on the grid where it belongs.
Focus on the food you love again. Slowly, slide that food on the grid moving it toward the food you think is gross. Stop before you get it all the way there. What is happening to your impression of the food you like? For practically everybody, that food becomes less and less appetizing and starts to tip into “No, thank you! Grody!” the closer it gets to the gross food on the grid.
Slide the food you like back to where you originally placed it. It will restore its delicious status.
Yes… excellent. Behold the power of NLP!